i don't understand anything about a narcissist....i mean how do they get off using people for their own advantage?? and they don't feel bad about it ever??? do they not have feelings like the rest of us?? why do they do it?? how do they go to sleep at nite??? i sometimes wished i could be one of those spongie kind of people and just take take take, but it's not in me. someone once told me that it's like any addiction - drugs, gambling, i guess it can be, i just want to know why they proceed to ruin a peron's life and think nothing of it. (i'm much better now) thanks!