gray matters...or does it?
i just watched Gray Matters. I had never heard of this film, but alan is in it, so i put it on my queue.
it was a sweet little romp about discovery. i liked it.
Alan plays a sort of yoda cabbie character who assums that anyone who doesn't get excited when he kisses them must be gay. the character was not very complicated, just the wise mentor from out of nowhere with the right answers. to be honest, it seemed a little out of sync with the rest of the movie, but whatever. since it was alan, it was enjoyable anyway.
i always liked heather graham. i can't believe she is still so darn cute. i can't imagine her every looking old, and i'm pretty sure she's getting close to an age where she should start to look older. i bet she will still be tremendously cute, though.
there were aspects of this movie that were sort of disjointed. in it's attempt to normalize alternative sexuality, it skipped over logic and process in some parts. for example, the brother tells her he knew since she had a crush on her female 2nd grade teacher that she was gay. first of all, kids look up to same-sex role models all the time. secondly, why did he automatically discount that she may be bisexual? thirdly, what was he up to that at a young age (they seemed to be at most 2yrs apart from the kid videos), he was defining his sister's sexuality? when i was a kid, all that stuff came up in junior high school, not second grade. :(
so is it worth watching for the alan bits? probably. if you're in the mood for something light and not very challenging, and happen to enjoy watching heather graham. sure, why not. would i watch it again? no. would i recommend it to someone so they can see how good alan is? no.
but gosh he is so darn cute. :)
zebrasnake
oh, how fun, i didn't see that you had responded. oddly, i get notifications if someone joins the obsession, but none if someone replies to my posts? *shrug* oh well, guess i'll have to be more vigilant.
thanks for your feedback. i often feel like i am talking to myself in here, even expect to hear an echo. i really wish more people would post, or at least respond, even if they say i suck, just to create some motion, you know? i actually prefer someone saying i suck, if they can say why in a useful way, to just fluffy praise. i am always suspicious of unsolicited praise. i blame my mama. LOL
yeah, that whole bisexuality thing bothers me, too, how people can't just let people be whoever they are without trying to make fit into this or that box or hole (hehehe). i think it's just the natural inclination to belong and connect with people of similar values. perhaps some gay people have struggled so hard to have their gay side accepted that they feel they must reject and negate any inkling of being anything but gay. i don't remember if i mentioned it on any of my ramblings here, but it has been my experience that almost every single "gay" guy i've become close to has tried to have sex with me at some point. at first it really shocked me, but after it happened a few times, i figured, well, i guess they're just horny and just kinda splatter the landscape in hopes of an orgasm wherever it may happen. then after a lot of my gay friends died of AIDS i sorta was afraid to have more gay friends, or really any close friends, for a long time. so i can't report if they still wanna sleep with me, LOL! btw, one of them settled for wearing my silk robe to bed. if only straight guys would be so easily appeased :)
personally, i can certainly appreciate a beautiful woman. i've had girl crushes on Sherilyn Fenn and victoria secrets model Adriana Lima, but it's like i WISH i looked like them. the thought of actually going downtown on a woman is completely unappealing to me. on the other hand, i love love love men, probably too much. :( It makes me remember my friend, who is a transsexual, said to me about the difference between when she was a man and now that she is a woman. she said that she really enjoys not having that URGENCY of sex on the brain every second. that as a woman she is much more relaxed. while i am happy for her, it did make me wonder if i have a man's brain, LOL!
oh my, i have gone and written a terribly long response. well. i hope you get to read it.
xo
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LyricalFury
Love the description of the movie - haven't seen it yet. I think it's interesting that you brought up how kids see role models and such. My first crush on a real person was my female reading teacher when I was in kindergarten. Yeah, I started early - ha ha.
Throughout my years I developed crushes on both men and women and did eventually realize that I was at the very least bisexual. I hate that people equate bisexuality with either confusion or sluttiness (is that even a word?). Makes me a wee bit angry actually. Thanks for your posts, I always enjoy them =)